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how to deal with ignorant people?This forum post has messages dated from 09/10/10 through 08/01/11, please be sure to read all the messages. If you feel it is old or outdated, please follow up with a question or comment and someone may be able to update it, or reply with newer information if you have it. - Groceries
| how to deal with ignorant people? I have a family member that is currently living with me and he had nowhere else to go so I offered him to live with me and my family. He is very irresponsible, for instance he has never offered me and my husband to help us out by paying the bills. I only work a part-time job at the grocery store and my husband is currently looking for a job. One day, as I was lecturing my daughters about taking shorter showers, eating out less etc. to be frugal. He began to laugh when I told my daughters that. I find that very foolish because he takes ridiculous long showers. He doesn't not work and all he does is play games and watch TV. I now attempting to teach my daughters responsibility by showing them how help me around the house by cleaning and cooking. As I told my oldest daughter who's 14 that 'when you start to live by yourself you'll have to do all the housework and not just be a bum and sit all day long.' I could heard him giggle as he was inside guest room. That clearly angered me since he never has cleaned the room where he sleeps. I know what your probably thinking is to kick him out; however if I do my mother will be very angry at me for not helping him out. So how would I be able to give him a message without insulting him or kicking him out? |
| "Just Kick Him Out! "
That relative of yours reminds me of my relative as well. He also have the same characteristics as what you are describing your relative is. But we are different. I don't give a damn on him and on how my mother would react at my action. I kicked him off our house. There is no use in talking because he would just mock me. Now he is living with another relative of ours. And I bet he is bugging the hell out of that poor relative of ours. |
| "Some Are Abusive "
Most of time because we are too kind to people, they tend to abuse us. We give them a little, they crave for more. There is nothing wrong with helping out, especially if they are your relatives. But you also have to consider yourself, your own family. What would be their reaction in the situation? You have a family of your own. Take care of them first before anything else. |
| That is really annoying. I have never heard such great non verbal insult from a not so good man. I think you should consult him for that matter. It is better to let him know that you are not easy seeing him around. In my case, that problem would really get into my nerves. I hope many people would have that great confident in knowing the best matter I know in that area. |
| We can't deny the fact that we are only humans and no one is perfect. Dealing with ignorant people is quite difficult but I think it is up to you how you will be considerate with that kind of attitude. I have encountered the same thing when I was working in the grocery. I had no choice but to be patient enough with the customer who seem to be ignorant. |
| "I don't think so"
Is he ignorant, I think he is more likely to be a good for nothing freeloader. What really bothers me is why are you even letting him bother your peaceful family. If your mom is so passionate about helping him, then why not do it herself. You have a life of your own now and I think your mother will and should understand this as well. What about your husband, what does he have to say about this scenario? I think you should talk to your mother about this matter. |
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